In a prior blog entry here, I shared an insight from Linda Gallanter, that your goal when raising children should be to give them purpose, rather than for them to be "happy." If they find purpose, they will find happiness. If you obsess with their immediate happiness as a goal, they may just end up spoiled or feeling self-entitled.
But in reading an excellent article from Andrea Elliot, The Jihadist Next Door, and in remembering some concepts from a novel (OD&H) I started trying to write a decade ago but never finished, one should remember that "purpose" is a double-edged sword. A lot of the most dangerous people find purpose alright – to destroy or vanquish or eliminate.
So the caveat should be that Purpose needs to be Positive. And since Positive is a normative word whose definition may be in the eye of the beholder (ie, for Omar Hammami, killing infidels in Somalia is a Positive act), I would define Positive as rooted in TOLERANCE AND RESPECT TOWARDS OTHER HUMAN BEINGS – or the golden rule of doing onto others as you would want to be done on to you.
Elliot’s article also highlights that the same attributes of leaders in society – being smart, curious, introspective, analytical, charismatic, determined – can be dangerous if not rooted in tolerance.
Ironically, Omar Hammami was brought up by a Muslim Dad and Christian Mom. So you would think that environment can foster diversity and respect (as it has in countless of PeaceWorks and OneVoice team members I have met over the years whose parents come from different backgrounds. Alas, in this case, the teachings that Hammami got from Islam and from Christianity were exclusionary and rooted in intolerance. He would be warned by his Mom’s family and church in Alabama that he would go to hell unless he accepted Christianity. And he would be warned by his Father’s family in Syria that he would be cursed if he didn’t accept Islam. Repressive religious upbringings can boomerang and catch up with your offspring.
Elliot’s article also points how "a constant in Hammami’s life [is] his striving for another place and purpose."
The zeal to transcend one’s life in this world – the search for purpose and posterity – can be the greatest inspiration for good or evil.
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